"She's the strongest person I ever met - mentally strong and rock solid in her faith - and an incredible example for our children," says Dale Zavatter, referring to his wife, Suzanne.

Putting Their Things in Order, the Zavatters Get 'Out-Niced'

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EDITOR'S NOTE: The following first ran in The Berkshire Eagle and features two of our beloved employees here at the Marian Helpers Center, Suzanne and Dale Zavatter. Today, May 22, the Marian Fathers are asking our Marian Helpers to pray a novena to Blessed George for complete healing of Suzanne, whose cancer is spreading.

PITTSFIELD — She calls them the "great, terrible things," and they're mounting up these days.

Numbered upon them was the recent day in which she visited Henry at Berkshire Hills Country Club to plan her daughter's upcoming wedding. That same day, she visited Rob at Dwyer Funeral Home to plan her own funeral.

Suzanne Zavatter, 48, defines the great, terrible things as the beautiful moments that engulf wondrous sorrow. Like the fact that she and a childhood friend of hers both have terminal cancer.

"It's not great that a childhood friend of mine is also dying of cancer," she says, "but it's beautiful that we are going through this together."

Suzanne was diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2015. Following a double mastectomy and chemotherapy, she was told she had a 75 percent chance she would remain cancer free, but last September she felt a lump on her neck. The cancer has returned — to her chest, clavicle and brain.

The focus of an enormous benefit concert earlier this year at Tavern at the A in Pittsfield — another great, terrible thing — she was recently told to "get her things in order."

There's no pamphlet explaining how one is to get one's things in order. No step-by-step guide.

But something occurred back in 2015, when Suzanne was first diagnosed, that has shaped her response and defined her life from here on out.

One particular morning she was doubting God's existence, wondering if maybe faith in God is just a coping mechanism. She prayed for a sign that God is real. That very afternoon a package was delivered to her doorstep. It was a sign — a literal sign about 4-feet wide, sent from her husband's godfather in Alabama. It read "BELIEVE." That took care of that. She stopped questioning, and every day brings fresh proof for her that God is real and he has a plan.

Lately, she and many others are, as she puts it, "being very bold" in praying for her physical healing. It doesn't hurt that she works for the Marian Fathers in Stockbridge who also have been praying daily for her healing.

As for her family, that includes Dale and their three children and two grandchildren.

Dale and she first met when they were 16 years old. They went on a blind date, set up by mutual friends. The night before the date, Dale took a crash course in learning how to drive a stick shift so that he could pick Suzanne up in style - in his friend's Toyota SR5, which was black with a white stripe down the middle. The car was dubbed "The Skunk."

He took her to Burger King. Though he stalled the engine a few times on East Street, all went well enough that they fell in love and now marvel in the midst of her cancer of how beautiful their lives have been together.
In the process of putting her things in order, Suzanne is experiencing the great, terrible irony that, in learning how to die, one can also learn how to live.

"It forces you to live each day with so much more appreciation and gratefulness," she says.

For instance, she can look at the time she has spent in chemotherapy at Berkshire Medical Center's Infusion Center as "awesome," because she was accompanied by her sister or mother.

"Plus," she says laughing, "it's a gorgeous view there. The people are nice. The chairs are comfortable — they have vibrating mode and heat. It's like a spa day. I feel like a chemo princess."

She can look with amusement at that day she spent planning both a wedding and funeral. Her children, however, are not quite there yet. Her daughters, Brittany and Sydney, consider their mom their best friend. They're struggling — as is their youngest, Giordan, 13, who at first expressed anger at the doctors.

"We talked about things," says Suzanne. "I told him I don't want to waste any moments. I don't want to focus on being angry about this. I want to embrace every moment I can. The next day, it was he who reminded me of that. I was annoyed with something trivial, and he said, 'Mom, we can't waste any moments.' My heart melted."

Suzanne's goal is to make it to Sydney's wedding in December.

"I want to dance at my daughter's wedding, and then after that I'll set another goal," she says.

While she prays for a miracle healing, she says she's already witnessed many miracles already in the return to faith of many family members and friends.

That includes some of the more than 500 people who attended the benefit concert for Suzanne on Jan. 28, at the A. The 11-plus hour benefit featured raffle prizes donated from businesses throughout the county and nearly a dozen bands, including Dale's own Whiskey City, for whom he serves as bassist.

The place was packed all day long. People wore T-shirts with Suzanne's image on it and emblazoned with the words "Team Zavatter." The band F-Bomb even played the Zavatters' theme song these days, Journey's "Don't Stop Believin'."

"It was all embarrassing and overwhelmingly uncomfortable," says Dale with a laugh. "But it was beautiful and we're so, so grateful to everyone."

"The people in Berkshire County have been so amazing and there's no way for me to express how thankful I am for everyone's thoughts and prayers," says Suzanne.

The two have had a long-running joke that they never like to be "out-niced" by others.

"We got totally out-niced," says Dale. "We sit in bed at night and say how blessed we are. How did our lives turn out this great?"

+ + + UPDATE: Doctors recently informed Suzanne that her cancer continues to spread despite the chemo. Please join us in praying a novena to Blessed George for Suzanne's complete healing.

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Rene and Perlita Concepcion - May 30, 2018

Suzanne, so sorry that you are sick and we did not know about it because we just came back from the Philippines. We will keep you in our Mercy prayers and all other prayers for a miracle to cure your illness. Remember ' Jesus, I trust in you" always. I am sure Amen Cat at Divine Mercy is also praying for you. See you soon as Pearl and I will start our monthly pilgrimage to the Stockbridge Shrine in June. We love you .. Rene and Pearl C

Linda G - May 25, 2018

It’s 3AM I woke up thinking of you. I saw this Novena on the first day and started praying for you. I was looking for a Novena for a loved one. I consider myself blessed to participate in your Novena. My prayers will always be with you and your family.

Donna L - May 24, 2018

Blessed are you, Suzanne. Do not waste a moment on negativity. Embrace the moments and please dear one, offer up all suffering to the Holy Souls in Purgatory who will I turn intercede for you.

Marie Balthazaar - May 24, 2018

I am totally offering this novena for you Suzanne. You are also in our family prayer list, my husband and I pray for many with different needs and sickness everyday. May God be with you to give you courage and comfort and bring you healing

deacon bob - May 23, 2018

Suzanne know that your name is mentioned at the Shrine of Divine Mercy at the 3 O'Clock prayers
May the Rays of God's Love, and Mercy burst forth from this Host as we let our prayers rise like incense to the Thorne of God's Mercy. We remember you, we love you and we pray all is well. God's Blessings!

Kathleen Osenbau - May 23, 2018

I will join in this novena and pray for Suzanne's healing. I, too, am going through some major health and financial issues so I will offer up my suffering in prayer for Suzanne every morning. Thank you for sharing your story! I came to the Marian's website to order some cards this morning when I saw your article and I was so moved by your optimism and your gratefulness for all of God's blessings! Just yesterday, after receiving some bad news regarding my situation, I was crying out to Jesus, asking Him questions like "Where are You? Why are You allowing me to suffer so much?" and just pleading for Him to give me a sign that He is with me. Then I read your story! Your testimony and bright optimism really touched my heart. I was especially touched by that card you received that said "BELIEVE"! That's all I needed to hear for my own situation!!! That was Jesus telling me that He IS with me. So I will joyfully pray for you during this novena, especially that you not only be able to dance at your daughter's wedding but that you also be able to dance at your other children's weddings! May Jesus touch you with His healing graces and may Our Lady wrap you up tightly in Her mantle of love, mercy and protection! God bless you all!

Sonia - May 22, 2018

I will gladly join in this Novena to Blessed George for the complete recovery of Suzanne. May God continue to bless you and your family, dear Suzanne and Dale.